Question 1

What is separation anxiety disorder?

Accepted Answer

Separation anxiety disorder involves excessive fear or worry about being separated from attachment figures — parents, partners, or home — that is developmentally inappropriate, persistent (lasting at least four weeks in children, six months in adults), and causes significant distress or impairment. In children, it commonly presents as school refusal, difficulty sleeping alone, recurrent nightmares about separation, and somatic symptoms (stomach aches, headaches) on school mornings. In adults, it can manifest as excessive worry about loved ones' safety and difficulty with any separation.

Question 2

How does separation anxiety disorder differ from normal separation distress?

Accepted Answer

Some separation distress is normal at certain developmental stages — infants and toddlers characteristically show distress at separation, typically between 8 months and 3 years. This is normal and healthy attachment behaviour. Separation anxiety disorder is distinguished by its persistence beyond the developmentally expected period, its severity, and its impairment of functioning (preventing school attendance, sleep, or normal daily activities). Sudden onset of separation anxiety after a period of healthy functioning (secondary separation anxiety) often has an identifiable trigger, such as a traumatic event or loss.

Question 3

What treatments are effective for childhood separation anxiety?

Accepted Answer

CBT adapted for children has the strongest evidence, with specific components including psychoeducation about anxiety, gradual exposure to separation situations (starting with brief separations and building), relaxation skills, and cognitive restructuring of catastrophic separation beliefs. Parent involvement is central — parent behaviour (accommodation, reassurance) can inadvertently maintain the anxiety. School reintegration is often a specific treatment target. Short-term SSRI medication (typically sertraline or fluoxetine) may be used for severe presentations alongside therapy.

Question 4

Can adults have separation anxiety disorder?

Accepted Answer

Yes — while more commonly recognised in children, separation anxiety disorder in adults is now formally recognised in DSM-5. Adult separation anxiety typically involves persistent excessive worry about the safety of an attachment figure (partner, parent, or child) when apart, difficulty tolerating any separation, and somatic symptoms during separations. It is more common than previously recognised and is associated with broader anxiety disorder histories. CBT addressing the specific cognitive content of separation fears is effective for adults.

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